So it has been ages since i've gone out in heels. Make that 8 months to be specific, which is also how old my baby Ethan is now. Well, I'm a mom so it's harder to use my pre-mom shoes because for one, they are mostly heels and two my body has changed. I'm heavier than my normal weight which means my center/core and balance have changed. Throw on a 15 lbs baby that cannot walk yet plus all his other baby gear that I have to carry around doesn't make things easier either.
I think it's important for women to still keep parts of what I call, their "old self" even after having children. I remember telling my friend that wearing the clothes and shoes that I used to wear pre-baby makes me feel like "me" again, only this time I'm a better version of myself. I'm a mommy now and that's a huge responsibility! Overwhelming at times but incredibly fulfilling. All of a sudden my days are filled with diaper changing, nursing, cooking, playing and singing nursery rhymes. So at times it doesn't feel like there's any room for fashion, make up or any girly stuff at all... But, I TRY. It's not easy but I try. Here some tips that I'd like to share with you guys on how get back to wearing heels now that you're a mom.
- Start slow and low. If you're new to wearing heels, I definitely recommend starting low and slow. Find a pair of shoes that you already own that has the lowest heel and start walking in them even for just a few minutes a day. Work your way up to a higher heel each time you feel comfortable enough on your current heel level.
- Work on your core. That's right, if you do not have a strong center, it is going to be harder for you to maintain balance and walking in heels require just that, balance. I do a lot of pilates and ab work outs to help me "wake up" my abdominal muscles again and it has been really helping me keep my center.
- Strengthen your back. A lot of people do not realize that in order for you to have a strong center you have to have strong abs and back. They go hand in hand. To strengthen my back I go on all fours and raise one hand and the opposite leg straight up and do as many repetitions as I can. If I need to increase intensity I use hand and leg weights.
- Use a gel or a leather cushion to support the sole of your feet. This has been a lifesaver for me and I especially like using gel to support the front soles of my feet because that's the part where you will feel the most pressure when wearing heels.
- Hips first not shoulders. It's all about the posture. Ladies, this is a must. If you don't believe me, try walking forward in heels with your shoulders leading you. If you do this, your body will involuntarily move forward while your legs drag behind you. This is why some women look like they are dragging their feet while wearing heels and it totally ruins it. Trust me, even if you have the chicest heels on earth, if you don't know how to walk in them you will not look good.
- Practice, practice, practice! Practice at home while doing laundry, the dishes or even while holding the baby. The more you are on your heels the better you'll be at wearing them and you'll live in them in no time.
T-shirt : GAP
Jeans: H & M
Boots: Rag & Bone
Sunglasses: Ray Ban